The Joneses...those ubiquitous neighbors who always seem to have what we don't long before we even realize that we want what they now have. That infamous family that acts as the ever rising benchmark for standard of living. The people with whom we feel we must keep up...or be hopelessly left behind. The ones with whom we are always comparing ourselves.
Now, lest you start to feel bad about comparing yourself to the Joneses, let me let you in on a little secret. The truth is...everyone compares. And it's not all bad.We are constantly comparing. Your whole construct of who you think you are and how you fit in to the big picture is built on comparisons. We learn at an early age to identify and classify things in our environment according to similarities and differences. As we grow, we learn to make inferences, to see connections and to draw conclusions. This is how we continue to expand our understanding of the world.
So if making comparisons is a natural and necessary process, what exactly is the problem?
The problem is that social comparison can easily turn into social competition. Comparing yourself with the Joneses leads to the desire to keep up with the Joneses...or even surpass them. In essence we let our peers, neighbors, and society determine for us how we should look and what we need to buy in order to be "the best". This continual, nonstop need to acquire in order to compete is extremely stressful. You end up owning things that you have no use for or buying things that do not suit you just because those darn Joneses had one first.
In order to have a very small closet, you will have to curtail your social comparison. You will never be able to have a consistent look if your look changes as often as Madison Avenue would like it to. Notice new trends and form opinions about what you like and don't like, but don't follow the siren song of the Joneses down the path of TOO MUCH TOO OFTEN.
Because the truth is, even the Joneses are trying to keep up with the Joneses.
Tomorrow is Question and Answer Day, and this time I will be answering some questions sent in by some of the fellas. See you then...same blog time...same blog channel...
Jennifer Skinner, Wardrobe Planning Expert