Continuing in the letting go series, today I will talk about how imagining the future contributes to our reluctance to part with clothing.
Maybe it was at one time your favorite item of clothing, but it's been out of style for a decade. Or maybe you bought it last year on sale, but don't have anything to wear it with. Or maybe it's a really great piece, but it just doesn't fit you correctly, and so it never gets worn. What is going on here? Why are you unwilling to let articles like these go?
Perhaps it's due to imagining all the future possibilities. Someday in the future, these clothes will be in style again. Someday in the future you'll have lost the ten pounds. Someday in the future you'll have something to pair it with. Someday....
These are your someday clothes: the clothes that take up closet real estate because you imagine how great they could be at some point in the future.
These someday clothes can be the hardest ones to let go, because there is a grain of truth to your reasons for holding on to them. It is true that [insert whatever] could happen. And you will feel some guilt letting them go before their (imagined) potential is realized.
Nevertheless, these clothes aren't being worn now. For all that we imagine that we will wear something in the future, we rarely do. The clothes come back in style, but with an updated twist. You lose the weight, you want new clothes. You never really find an outfit for your closet orphan, because you've forgotten that it't there.
My advice? I tend to be ruthless. If it hasn't been worn in a year, or I have no plan for including it in my rotation this season, out it goes. Because the truth is, if you haven't worn it in the last year, you probably never will. Think about it...in that year you will have had at least 90 opportunities per season to wear it. That's a lot of days!
Next time I'll talk about the darker side of imagining the future: the fear of uncertainty. See you then...same blog time...same blog channel....
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